Messy Life
Even the most fulfilling parts of your life can get crowded by activities not in alignment with your true self. Photo by Rachel Andrews

It has been my experience that most people view their lives like the picture above. There are cultivated plants and wild plants, they are all encroaching on each other, it’s hard to look at all at once, and nothing feels special and sacred – instead, it all feels like a jumbled mess.

Each new introduction to the ‘garden of your life’ was made with the best of intentions. You wanted to get involved with an organization that makes a difference, so you joined the PTA at your child’s school, the neighborhood garden club, or took on some other civic responsibility. You just wanted to contribute to a better world.

That’s a noble undertaking, and you felt great about at first. Then the time came for you to actually do something, and things changed. It felt like a burden, you didn’t have the time, you cringed all day because you knew you didn’t want to go to any more meetings, especially when they cut into your evenings or weekends. And, on top of all that, you felt guilty about not wanting to follow through!

The same goes for the gym membership, or the juicer you bought, or the new pair of running shoes you saved up for. You want to feel better, you want to look better, and you want to do what’s right for your body, but you are overwhelmed when it comes time to act on it. It’s as if you are waiting for the right moment to feel inspired to go for a jog, but that moment doesn’t come. Then, once again, the guilt comes as you watch your new shoes gather dust in the back of the closet. (If you haven’t already buried them out of sight)

When trying to tackle this mess, you need to look at examples where you actually did follow through with something. That will show you the formula for how to live with purpose, where your intentions and your actions are more free flowing from one to the other, and where the whole process is a joy instead of a pain. What used to get you excited and gave you that inspired moment to act is where to look, even if most of those examples are currently contributing to your mess.

How about the scrapbook you started that beautifully archived your most precious memories? The quilt that you cut out all the pieces for? The book you started writing? I could go on. These have partially birthed into physicality. These are real, and they came from a place of inspiration. Do you remember what feeling you had that enabled the cross over from thought (idea) to expression (physicality)? It was a rare communion with your spirit. You rode the wave of inspiration (in spirit), also known as the flow, and you were so in the moment and so filled with purpose, that you overrode the ego mind. You gave yourself space to create, and surpassed your ego.

Surpassed my ego mind? Yes! At any given point in time, we could all be doing a million things. We could be worrying about what bills are due, reminding ourselves to wake up early tomorrow, thinking about what to make for dinner, etc. But when we are in the flow of inspiration and in communion with our spirit self, the ego mind shuts down. We transcend it. This allows us to follow through with our intentions. Essentially, we are weeding the garden of our life for that moment, and each subsequent moment that we stay in the flow, to allow ourselves to focus on that one task.

Once you have identified areas of your life where you have been in the flow, you may be wonder how that translates into the rest of your life. There are two stages to this part. Stage 1 is identifying what areas of your life are in harmony with your spirit. Take for example the PTA meetings, or other civic duties you may have. Ask yourself, in the ‘yes, no’ format for asking your intuition taught in the first video, if that activity is in alignment with you. If it’s a yes, then it stays. If it’s a no, try to find something else you can volunteer for that is a ‘yes,’ and find a way to leave the current commitment.

If you did buy running shoes and have never used them, have you asked yourself if running is something you like to do? Again, use your inner self as a guide. You may not like running! Maybe you would actually like to bike, roller blade, play tennis, go hiking, etc. Exercise shouldn’t feel like torture, and you don’t need to like running just because other people do. Find something you love and this part of your life will be a treat instead of a source of guilt.

The other areas of life outlined in the picture are representative of what happens when you fail to make sacred space for important activities. Vacation, an exciting business idea, and anything else that nurtures you needs to be given special status. This is stage 2, and involves surpassing your ego mind intentionally. Leave the scattered thoughts at the door and take full advantage of your specially scheduled time here. Turn off the phone, don’t check your email and just let yourself go while attending to this part of your life. The benefits you get from allowing yourself to focus will spill over into every other part of your life. This is key.

Strengthening your sense of sacred space and time will help you strengthen your connection to your inner self, your intuition, and also make it easier to schedule your time around things that really matter. Your messy life will gradually turn into a more palatable version, with the potential for being a truly spectacular show of flowers and foliage that you just can’t wait to get to everyday.

Choosing your activities based on what is truly in alignment with you, and then honoring those commitments with a feeling of reverence will gradually reorganize your life. You will be more excited about what fills your day, and the feeling of accomplishment that is generated out of making purposeful use of your time will keep the process going. You’ll think twice about what you say yes to in the future. And pretty soon, you will want to share how beautiful your life is, instead of trying to hide it’s messy status from others and from yourself.